there are two styles of explanatory script--optimistic and pessimistic.
When something good happens, the optimist says,
"I did that. I do that kind of thing in many ways. It's a permanent part of who I am." But when a bad thing happens, the optimist says, "It was the situation. And that situation was unique. Anyway, it'll be different next time."

Pessimists use the same scripts; but they blame themselves when things go wrong and refuse to give themselves credit when things go well.

cognitive psychologists, believe you can change your script, and then your script will change you. To become an optimist, first become aware of your automatic script--catch yourself in the act and see what you're telling yourself. Then, write down what you would be saying say if you were an optimist.

Keep it up and someday, pal, you too will be an optimist.